Wedding decor, centerpieces and bouquets tend to fade into the background since I am so focused on the couple and their emotional needs at the moment. About the only time I register the floral decorations is when they are positively stunning and no one can help but notice them. Or a bride is distraught because the flowers were not what she had expected and I need to calm her down and refocus her attention. I generally cannot see a thing wrong with the flowers, but there was this one time....never mind that now.
I pin on a fair number of boutonnières, but while that means I definitely notice those, it is generally with respect to how easily the pin slides through the stem.
We are probably all familiar with the tradition of the bride tossing her bouquet at the reception, but last year I officiated a wedding ceremony where we included a ritual in the wedding itself that brought attention to the bride's bouquet and engaged the guests more directly in the ceremony. We placed it immediately following the Words of Welcome. When I was done speaking, a string quartet played a piece of music while the guests passed the bouquet. The couple took the moment to hug and kiss close family members so they were not just standing there staring into space or at one another.
Laying Hands on the Bouquet
Officiant: The laying on of hands has long been a traditional ritual in which we celebrate the transference of feeling and intent through the visible metaphor of human touch. When we reach out, we form a connection, a bond, whereby our strength as a community sustains the individual. By laying our hands upon the bouquet, we promise from this day forward, to encourage and love (the couple), and to help guide and support them in being steadfast in the promises they make to one another this day. Please take a moment to bestow your blessing upon them as we pass (bride's) bouquet.
My vantage point allowed me to watch the passing of the bouquet. The expressions on the guests' faces were delightful. Many were, of course, surprised as they had never seen anything like this before. I enjoyed watching them pass the bouquet delicately as if it would break at any moment or hug it fiercely to their chests. Many brought the bouquet to their faces so they could breathe in the fragrance of the flowers. Most took the moment and the opportunity quite seriously and placed their hands reverently over the bouquet, closed their eyes tightly and murmured something under their breath.