You see, there will come a day when the bride and groom are not quite as thrilled with one another as they are on their wedding day. There are inevitable moments of disagreement and conflict in every marriage no matter how much in love you are and perfectly matched you may be.
This ritual provides the couple with a built-in "repair attempt," an opportunity to gracefully shift the attention from what seems wrong at the time to the reasons why the couple chose to wed in the first place. Although bells are symbolically associated with weddings, I once adapted this ritual to become the "water pistol of truce." Yes indeed, right in the middle of a formal wedding ceremony the bride and the groom pulled out water pistols and shot each other. They brought a fun memory from their courtship into their wedding and presumably, into their marriage. If you already have a playful way of diffusing tension in your relationship, why not ritualize it within your wedding?
The Bell of Truce is usually included in the wedding towards the end of the ceremony somewhere between the exchange of rings and declaration of marriage.
Officiant: (Bride) and (Groom) have an expectation of marriage as realistic as it is romantic and wish to express this within the context of their wedding ceremony with this bell of truce. Bells have long been associated with weddings as their joyous tones announce good tidings. I present this bell to (Bride) and (Groom) and ask them to give the bell a hardy ring while thinking lovely thoughts about one another and their future life together.
<couple rings bell>
(Bride) and (Groom), keep this bell in your home to remind you of your wedding day. When arguments arise, and they will, put this bell to its best use. One of you should ring the bell to call a truce. Its sound will remind you of your wedding vows, conjure up the happiest memories from this day and help you resolve our differences lovingly and compassionately.
If you do opt to include this ritual, I recommend you start looking for the perfect bell sooner rather than later. On-line shopping may be the key to this. I once ran all over town looking for a simple silver bell and easily tried twenty stores before finding a tacky ceramic one at a dollar store. Silver bells are apparently not as easy to come by as you might think!