In the past, brides may have carried flowers to ward off evil spirits, but today they carry them simply to follow tradition and add beauty to the occasion. Flowers are symbolic and some brides choose specific flowers based on their meaning. Such as red roses for passionate love and stephanotis for good luck.
The elegance, loveliness, and symbolism of flowers lends itself well to ritual within the wedding ceremony. Like many contemporary wedding rituals, there is no set wording for a "Flower Ceremony." I shamelessly adapted my blog title from The Princess Bride because the meaning of this ritual can be completely customized to capture whatever sentiments the couple wish to express. It defies categorization as it is not necessarily a unity ritual, though it could certainly be written as one .
Simply by virtue of having roots and being inclined to growth, plants in general, make excellent metaphors for marriage when couples wish to honor their families of origin yet look towards their future together. Flower blossoms evoke images of beauty, joy, potential, and fertility.
The ritual below is simply one example of the many possibilities for creating a meaningful Flower Ceremony within a wedding. While many wedding rituals, such as the Sand Ceremony or Unity Candle, follow the exchange of rings, this ceremony can be placed virtually anywhere in the Order of Service. The Flower Ceremony below took place immediately before the Exchange of Vows.
At this time, I would like to invite (Bride and Groom’s) mothers, (Name) and (Name), to come forward to represent their respective families as we acknowledge these two previously separate circles of love are being united in a new and wider circle. The flower born of the tiniest of seeds, symbolizes both the beauty and the potential of love that blooms and grows through time. It is born of a plant with roots that remind us of the families who nurtured (Bride and Groom) to become the one person in the world each holds most dear, families whose love and support is important to the strength of this new union.
(Bride's Mother) has chosen a pink tulip symbolizing the mutual care and concern needed in a strong marriage. (Groom's Mother) has chosen a pink rose symbolizing friendship because today (Bride and Groom) each marry their best friend. (Mother) and (Mother) please hand your flower to your child.
I am presenting (Bride and Groom) with Ivy to weave through their flowers symbolizing the fidelity you pledge to one another this day.
(Bride and Groom), I ask you to please place these flowers together in this vase representing your hopes for your marriage as you cultivate a union with deep strong roots, taking pleasure in the effort that entails. Every time you see a flower, may it remind you of the joy you feel this day and your commitment to bring life and beauty to one another, now and forever.