In my opinion, two things are required for a truly meaningful and memorable wedding day - memorable for all the right reasons!
If you have spent any time on my blog you know how much I value flexibility. Life is inherently unpredictable and no one can ever maintain total control over every single aspect of a wedding. I promise you, with 100% certainty, if you maintain a flexible attitude you will enjoy your wedding day much more than if you obsess over the details.
Focus on the bigger picture, the reason you are having a wedding and getting married in the first place. Lucky you gets to the spend the rest of your life with the man or woman of your dreams! Everything else is secondary to that. Flexibility is dependent upon that wise perspective.
If you noted the title of this column before plowing on ahead with your reading, than you have already figured out what I consider to be the second important frame of mind necessary for a spectacular wedding experience. Playfulness!
One of my brides actually bought two identical wedding dresses so she and her husband could surprise their guests with a dash into the ocean at the end of the ceremony. Okay, she bought a $100 dress from Macy's rather than a $5,000 Vera Wang and she had an hour before the reception to dry off and change, but they had a blast and ended up with some neat pictures. Not to mention guests who will never forget that wedding!
You absolutely do not have to splash around in the waves to bring playfulness into your wedding of course. It can be as simple as giddily responding, "I do, I do, I do, I do and I do!" when the officiant asks "Do you give this ring to (bride) as a token of your love for her?" ~ That was the groom at a wedding this past Saturday by the way.
One of my couples used water pistols in the "bell" of truce ceremony and another unexpectedly arrived at the ceremony site from different directions on their motorcycles. One groom dried his bride's tears of joy with a humongous brightly colored handkerchief he had hidden in his pocket for just such an occasion.
A reader at one wedding came forward with a poem glued inside "Green Eggs and Ham" leading the guests and the bride and groom to believe that's what she was going to read. Not everyone thinks goofiness is appropriate at a wedding ceremony and that's perfectly understandable. There are times when certain types of silliness are appropriate, but other types may not be.
Playfulness can be a part of your wedding behind the scenes as well. Slip a funny card into your fiance(e)'s pocket, bag, or shoes for him or her to find while getting ready. Weave an inside joke into your ceremony or a toast at the reception.
Most importantly, it may just be a matter of adopting a playful disposition in the midst of all the wedding commotion. Who knows what joyful spontaneity might come of it.
Couples who play together, stay together. Might as well start now!
Above Left and Right: Cheryl Clermont of Space Coast Photographer
Bottom: Shannon Perez of Florida Beachside Weddings