Choose your colors, pick out a cake, select a DJ, decide on a menu….it’s really easy to look at what vendors are offering and simply point to the option you prefer. In a sense, this is exhibiting some creativity because no one is going to make all of the exact some choices you’ve made. But is it really capturing who you are?
I have seen plenty of truly heart-warming personal touches in all areas of wedding planning, but my specific role is helping the couple craft a ceremony that captures who they are, their regard for one another and their expectations for their marriage. Because I am not limited to a denominational rite of marriage, we can create anything our combined imaginations can conceive. When couples have a whimsical idea for their ceremony, I encourage them to follow that train of thought. That’s why I joyfully changed a Bell of Truce ritual into a Water Pistols of Truce ritual for one couple.
While I wasn’t the officiant, I recently saw photographs from a wedding where the bride and groom processed into the ceremony pushing shopping carts -- they met at Publix. That may seem strange to some, or even wildly exceeding the bounds of proper etiquette to those who prefer a strict adherence to tradition, but to those who know the couple it must have seemed absolutely perfect. And really, who is going to forget their wedding?
When it comes to the bigger picture, ceremony and reception, the opportunities for personal expression are virtually limitless. Don’t be afraid to show off your silly side, highlight a passion you share or spring a surprise or two.
The picture above is from the wedding of the youth development director of my sons’ soccer club. He and his wife share a love of the sport. Of all the pictures from their wedding, this one just jumped out at me as the best. And their faces aren’t even in it! Why is it so brilliant? Because underneath the wedding finery, this is who they are and what they mean to me and others. Rob introduced two-thirds of my children to the love of the beautiful game. If his wedding hadn’t had anything related to soccer in it, there would have been something seriously missing.
Yes, it’s a wedding and we want to keep things within the bounds of good taste, but it’s your wedding. Own it!
Photo Attribute: John Johnston - Glasgow Photographer