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Okay, so you've seen there is an awful lot I can do to help make your wedding
or commitment ceremony uniquely meaningful. You might be thinking, "Sounds great, but what's the catch? Where does this celebrant draw the
line?"Fair enough!
Here is what I won't do.
When I pronounce the Declaration of Marriage, I will never use the
phrase "man and wife." I pronounce a couple, "husband and
wife." If you think I'm being prickly, say the following sentence out
loud. "I now pronounce you husband and woman." Sounds pretty stupid,
doesn't it? Besides, while I am legally able to render an adult male standing
in front of me a husband, I have neither the authority nor the wherewithal to
change him into a man. That's his wife's job.
I cannot i  n
good conscience include a charge to a wife to obey her husband as part of
the vows. Being married for over a decade I think I can say with some
confidence that anyone expecting obedience has an unrealistic view of
marriage. Not to mention it takes a lot of the fun out of it. The relational
dynamic in a marriage should be one of creative and transformative power, not
one of subjugation.
I admit it, I am an unabashed prude. I cannot bring myself to do a nudist
wedding. I'm too self-conscious about my own body and way too prone to the
giggles to get through a wedding viewing someone else's. Trust me, you don't
want me goggling at something I haven't seen in quite that way before. The
bride should be the only one blushing that day.
I won't jump out of an airplane with you. I'll be more  than
happy to join you in marriage once you two airborne love birds reach
terra firma, but there is not an officiant fee large enough to get me to sky
dive as I solemnify your marriage. Try it. Make an offer. I won't take
it....Really.
On a more serious note, I do not officiate weddings where one or both of
the parties is below statutory age and has had to obtain parental approval for
the marriage license. Although such a marriage would be perfectly legal, I am
personally uncomfortable unless both parties have full majority status under
the law.
Other than what is stated above, I'm pretty open and inclusive. Thanks to
the caring and creative professionals who belong to the American Association
of Wedding Officiants, I have access to a wide variety of theme weddings. If
you have an idea, I bet we can put something together for you.
Oh, I just thought of one more thing. No snake handling! Sorry.
Cheers,
Rev. Ann
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